Stepping Stones, Inc. Newsletter

                    


                            Stepping Stones, Inc


Spring 2011

Our Mission Statement

  • Ÿ  To provide support services to those in abusive and/or violent situations
  • Ÿ  To deepen understanding of the abuse and violence crisis in our society through community education and prevention techniques


Stepping Stones, Inc. Staff

Kris Porter, Director

Sharon Ludwig, Legal/Sexual Assault Advocate         

Jessica Scheithauer, Advocate

Julie Boyer, Advocate

Mariah Monty, Advocate

Deb Fierke, Bookkeeper

      

     Business Phone:  748-3795

  24-Hour Assistance Line: 748-5140

        Toll-Free Assistance Line:

               1-866-343-5140

                 Office Hours

         Monday through Friday

           8:00 A.M. - 4:00 P.M.


 Appointments Are Appreciated

                 P.O. Box 224

             Medford, WI 54451

              sslegadv@tds.net


Beyond Surviving…THRIVING!


We Thank Our Volunteers!

«Angel Weinzatl   «Pat Schilling

«Cindy Gibson      «Ray & Pat Cypher

«Dawn Kasper      «Sandy Weber

«Gene Wirz             «Sharon Thomas

«Girl Scout Troops 7101, 7009 & 7022                               

«Judith Hince        «Sherry & Mark Born

«Mary Quante       «Tammy Bahr

«Mary Wirz              «Tammy Erl

«Nancy Campbell-Kelz

«Norma & Jim Thums «Tom & Char Roberts         

«Pam & Paige Ogle    «Theresa & Macie Thorgerson                                             

 «Michael Schmidt      «Tyler Ludwig


Board of Directors

Nancy Campbell-Kelz, President

Sharon Thomas, Treasurer

Cindy Gibson, Secretary

Angel Weinzatl

Dana Detwiler

Dave Hempke

    
 

 

THANKS TO OUR 2011 DONORS: 


v Audrey Skibbe

v Carol Oryszczn – In memory of Tony Allen

v Courage To Change

v Charlotte Siemek

v Chell Anderson

v Helen Ludwig

v Holy Rosary CCW

v Judi Tacke

v Medford & Stetsonville Elementary Grades 1-4

v Our Savior’s Lutheran Church

v Peggy & Scott Stalheim

v Medford Rotary Club

v Sherry Born

v Girl Scout Troops 7101/7009/7022

v United Way of Taylor County

v Violet Miland

v Verizon Foundation

v Wal-Mart


How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. 

            ~Anne Frank

I am only one, but I am one.  I cannot do everything, but I can do something.  And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. 

 ~Edward Everett Hale

Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth. 

~Mohammed Ali

 

Needs List

Laundry Soap

Gift Card

Fabric Softener

                                    Kleenex

Dish Soap

                                    Paper Toweling

Toilet Paper

 

Up Coming Events

June

v Brat Fry – June 24, 2011

October 

v Domestic  Violence  Awareness  Month

November

v Fall Family Fun Fest–November 12, 2011

 

 


 Are You Violent?

Have You Ever:

1. Yelled or sworn at your partner?
2. Restrained him/her against his/her will?
3. Threatened, patronized, or been sarcastic toward him/her?
4.  Humiliated him/her in private or public?
5. Taken his/her car keys or money away?
6. Thrown, hit, sabotaged or destroyed things close to him/her?
7. Pushed, shoved, or slapped him/her?
8. Pulled his/her hair, kicked, burned or choked him/her?
9. Threatened to commit suicide if he/she leaves you?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, your actions are abusive toward your partner and may constitute Domestic Violence. If so, you may be breaking the law and could go to jail.

                                                                              Things You Can Do to Help Prevent Violent Behaviors                                                

 Escalation Prevention Plan (EPP) and De-Escalation Strategies


It's always good to find an effective stress management routine that works for you. Some of the suggestions below could help people manage the stress in their lives.
  • Take a time-out (ex. leave the situation, the room, or the house).
  • Call and talk with a supportive friend, group member, or relative.
  • Call a crisis line.
  • Notice your cues and where you are in the escalation process.  Continue to add cues and de-escalation strategies to your Escalation Prevention Plan (EPP).
  • Carry a notepad with you to help you remember your cues.  Write them down.
  • Work consciously at slowing yourself down.
  • Go for a walk.
  • Go to a relaxing spot (ex.  a nearby park, your backyard).
  • Work at really listening to the other person.
  • Count to ten or one hundred.
  • Take a deep breath.
  • Have a cool drink of water.
  • Splash cool water on your face.
  • Take a bath, hot shower, whirlpool, or sauna.
  • Share your thoughts and feelings assertively with others when you experience them.  Set appropriate and respectful limits when necessary.
  • Sit down when you are angry. Do not stand over others in an intimidating way.
  • Listen to relaxing music.
  • Distract yourself (ex. clean your closet, your desk, your shop, your car, your garage).
  • Spend time outdoors.
  • Whistle, sing or laugh.

For more information, go to

http://www.violencefreecommunity.com/thingsyoucando.php

 

              Legal Assistance for Victims Grant Program

 

The Legal Assistance for Victims grant provides funding from the Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women to strengthen or create civil legal assistance programs for victims.  Indianhead Community Action Agency, along with several regional domestic abuse shelters, was recently awarded this grant.  The current program has funding for two years, through September 2012. 

Using these funds, we are able to provide legal assistance or representation to victims/survivors of sexual assault, stalking, domestic violence and dating violence in family, immigration, housing, protective orders, and similar matters. 

The program has two attorneys working in northern counties in Wisconsin.  Jennifer Cooklock handless Taylor, Clark, Price, Rusk, and Marathon counties; and Melissia Mogen handles Burnett, Polk, Sawyer, and Washburn counties. 

To qualify, a person must be a victim or survivor of sexual assault, stalking, domestic violence, or dating violence, not be able to afford a lawyer, and be in one of the covered counties.  The victim/survivor must be an adult; the grant does not allow representation in child abuse matters.  Preference is given to referrals from the partner organizations, like Stepping Stones; but referrals from other sources may be accepted. 

To ask for assistance from this program, please contact Jennifer Cooklock (715-415-0481), Stepping Stones (715-748-3795), or Melissia  Mogen (715-415-0397).

 

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Wise Sayings and Quotes About Life

It is every man's obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it. - Albert Einstein

To sensible men, every day is a day of reckoning. - John W. Gardner


A hopeless person feels difficulty in every chance, but a hopeful person feels a chance in every difficulty.

See everything; overlook a great deal; correct a little. - Pope John XXIII

Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Now that it's all over, what did you really do yesterday that's worth mentioning? - Coleman Cox


A single conversation across a table with a wise man is worth a month's study of books. - Chinese proverb

Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success.

Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it.

Don’t waste a minute not being happy. If one window closes, run to the next window - or break down a door.


                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
                                                                                                             

 

From The Director’s Desk

 

As I look out the window of my office into a blue and cloudless sky, I’m reminded of how long the winter seemed this year.  Who would ever have imagined snow on May 3rd?  Today it’s wonderful to look at the trees getting new leaves to shade us on the warm days that we know are coming.  The tulips and daffodils in the gardens will soon give way to a bounty of summer flowers, fruits, and vegetables.  What wonderful things can occur after a long winter when that endless blanket of snow melts!

Sometimes our lives can be like that long, cold, dreary, seemingly endless winter.  We’re sure that there will be no future warmth and that we have nothing good to anticipate.  Everything will stay the same; nothing will change.

Let us remember that changing the paths of lives is much like the changing of the seasons.  It starts out with small changes; and then, with patience and perseverance, we move into a new season – whether that is a change in weather or a change in ourselves.

We have many clients who have utilized Stepping Stones’ services who will attest to this.  They come to us with their lives being a certain way – a way that is not good for them.  Little by little, sometimes very slowly, they initiate the necessary change in their lives.  As those changes are occurring, each individual is moving forward into that new season of their lives – a season that offers more strength, confidence, courage, responsibility, compassion and warmth than they ever thought possible.

We see this happening over and over again.   Truly, it’s like discovering a new spring in each person.  We get to watch them bloom into the people they are meant to be.  Once they are on that path of change, they are able to share with their children, their family, and their friends.  They are able to cultivate their own new garden and prepare for their future growth.

I vividly remember one client saying, “I feel like I can now reach for the sun”.  And, I’m sure that regardless of the weather, this person is now her own ray of light shining down on her family and friends.

Kristine Porter, Director

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